Imagine a change that you want for yourself. Something that will help you achieve one of your goals in life, something that will bring you closer to ‘the best version of you’.
Let’s depict this change as a movement from a point A to a point B. How do you usually go about making this move?
Well, 97% of people do the following: they focus on A, thinking about what to ‘correct’ or ‘improve’. Following this method you will -sooner or later- return to where you started, that is point A.
There are 2 reasons why this happens: First, when you focus on point A, the message that you give to your mind is ‘I don’t want the problem’. Remember how this message is translated (see previous post) into the mind’ s programming language: it is translated as ‘I want the problem’. So the unconscious mind will do whatever it takes -despite your seeming intention to change- to turn you back to the ‘problem’, that is back to point A.
Secondly, by focusing on point A, you are pulled back by a strong magnet attached to it: This magnet is called HABIT! That’s right, your current situation is hardwired in your mind with the help of accompanying unconscious daily habits, which have made point A so established and difficult to overcome. Those habits pull you back every time you try to focus on your ‘problematic’ situation in order to escape from it.
So, if it is impossible to change your current situation when you focus on it, how would it be feasible to change ? This is the First Key principle of the Q-Mind’s activation and we will deploy it in our next post. To be better prepared for it, do this exercise:
Exercise:
Remember the last time you tried to change something important in yourself and failed. Write down the following: What was the ‘problem’ in yourself that you were trying to get rid of ? What was its impact to your current life? What were the everyday habits that helped it ‘hardwire’ (repeated thoughts, actions or behaviors)? Instead of ‘correcting ‘the problem’, what would be another perspective of defining your intended change?
